In Nepal, if women don’t get marriage after about 25 years there are so many schools of thought to anticipate behind the reasons; could have love with someone so she is waiting while her family and friends would have tired. It is considered that telling about boyfriend or marriage is not usually acceptable during these days and even today in rural settings. Few may assume that she had broken relationship so she didn’t like to get marriage with other one. Few may assume that she is more qualified and not getting appropriate one. At the meantime, unmarried women get so many blaming in her life due to not having marriage. If she works or travels with someone, the community watched her and started to tag her with this boy or girl or anyone and create so many negative stories. In addition to, she always in vulnerable from the married and unmarried men by passing comments, sexual abuse and exploitation, receive unwanted letters, gifts, encountered with various forms of sexual, physical, psychosocial torture.Often family members of married men passed so many comments, sending emails threatening by phone calls, sending message through others. Often they block in facebook or unfriend too. Here I have shared a recent incidence without mentioning the name.
10/24, 5:51pm ……………………(Name hide)
will i be able to get ur number ?
this is urgent
Namaste chhori. What happened? Where and how are you? Hope you have wonderful Dashain. My number is available in google if not here you go 9849596298.
October 25, 2015……….(Name hide)
I just wanted to clear out some rumours that are going around…I m coming to Nepal in December,I would like to meet u then
And so sorry,I tried looking up ur name for ur number but nothing came up
Good morning! What rumors? Nepalese are smart enough for rumors. Would you share with me.i am curious. Didn’t you find www.actionworksnepal.com. you can meet me any time if I would in kathmandu. Action Works Nepal is evolved from volunteer efforts and trying to make something happen which is very challenging. It is very hard to work specially in Nepal. We are getting wonderful support ( donation,internship,facebook campgain etc) from family of board members and family. You are also heartly welcome. I have already given my number to you.here 9849596298
10/25, 4:52am……….Name hide
Nepali are very smart for rumours as u mentioned but not all nepalese are that smart…sometimes those nepalese find a lot of evidence to start the rumour…. i m no problem with u so far but the rumours i hear when i go to nepal really hurt and has desrupted my family….i heard ur campaign works for women and children i hope u understand it very well
Can you write me in my email email@example.com pls.i am in village using Mobile data.can you tell me what exactly you are telling
I have so many evidences ( will share later).
I often charged due to tagging or referring the post in facebook. People considered them as educated, high profile, rich, elite but their mindset is very low in many ways. They neither think in other way around. Why did the blamed, accused, put low only for one side. What is the gurantee men or married men or married women are perfect as they thought for unmarried women. If someone really dedicated to work beyond the comfort zone, partnering with various gender, groups and communities is obvious but the people constantly pulling leg by accusing in negative manner which is so deep painful, depressive and sometimes compel to deviant from the destination.